13 Things Whiny, Pathetica, Unsuccessful People Never Stop Doing (Ever)

August 26, 2015 8:53 am 3 comments Views:

Recently, close to 9,000 Inc.com readers shared my article about the common habits of successful people–on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn. That was pretty cool–and it got me thinking: What about the other side?

We all aspire to be like the really successful people we know, but how do we avoid thebad habits that unsuccessful people demonstrate? This is about those woefully pathetic souls–and we all know them–who squander every opportunity, then complain loudly about how their lives have turned out.

Here are the 13 most common behaviors they share. Let me know what other habits I’m missing here, and we might add them to another column.

1. Procrastinating.

We’re all human. We all procrastinate sometimes. Heck, I’m writing this column at 11:30 p.m. However, pathetically unsuccessful people take it to the extreme, living by the mantra, don’t do today what you can put off until tomorrow (or later). There’s always an excuse, always a distraction–and somehow things never get done.

2. Blaming.

Blaming others, that is. The sadly unsuccessful among us can always point the finger at someone else. And after they’ve spent so much time and energy blaming others, they still haven’t accomplished anything.

3. Minimizing.

Other side of the coin: It’s not just that extremely unsuccessful people blame others for their failures, but they talk down other people’s achievements. Whatever other people accomplish, these are the folks who are there to talk about how it wasn’t actually so great.

4. Consuming.

There’s a smart saying–if you want to be successful, spend more time producing and less time consuming. From scarfing fatty junk foods to spending hours watching mindless television and trashy pop culture, the pathetically unsuccessful among us spend a lot of time consuming.

5. Talking.

…and talking and talking and talking. Where successful people spend time making an effort to actively listen to others, the ridiculously unsuccessful among us believe they already know it all. Clearly, they have no need to infuse their knowledge with others’ experience.

6. Assuming.

Closely related to talking too much, wholly unsuccessful people make assumptions left and right. Often, they’re wrong; often they miss opportunities as a result. (They’re just so certain that things will be doomed, or too difficult to be bothered with.)

7. Naysaying.

It’ll never work; that’s a crazy idea; the deck is stacked against us. These are the typesGeorge Bernard Shaw had in mind when he said, “People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it.”

8. Malingering.

They talk big about the things they’re going to accomplish. Then, suddenly, they’re “sick.” They’ve got a cold, or a phantom health issue they have to take care of, or an allergy you’ve never heard about before, and they’re a last-minute scratch–not able to participate. They never win gold, silver, or bronze–they’re perpetually in the “DNF” category, for “did not finish.”

(Clearly, some people have legitimate medical conditions. We’re not talking about those people here; we’re talking about the perfectly healthy folks who always seem to make up “convenient” maladies.)

9. Loafing.

Relaxing is important. We all have times when we need to just kick back, but the ridiculously unsuccessful among us are the slothful lurches who seem always to be lying down, letting time pass by, and accomplishing nothing.

10. Equivocating.

You were counting on them to do something for you? (Oh, you must have misunderstood.) You were sure they were passionate about following their dreams? (Meh, you must have been reading into it.) No matter what these people say, you can be pretty sure they’ll be backing off it later.

11. Safeguarding.

There are legitimate times to cut your losses or be cautious. However, the chronically unsuccessful among us are so cowed by the fear of losing what little they have, that they never have the courage to try anything great.

12. Sour Graping.

Whatever it is that they couldn’t accomplish–well, they later spout off a reason why they didn’t really want it. The project their team really needed them to accomplish? It wasn’t all that important to begin with. The love interest they never had the guts to pursue? He or she probably wasn’t that great anyway.

13. Quitting.

Whatever goal they might have set for themselves, they decide later that it’s too hard, or it’s too unlikely to succeed, or it’s just not worth the effort. Suddenly they have other priorities–not that those other priorities wind up coming to fruition either. It’s pathetic. By definition, truly unsuccessful people can be trusted to do only one thing consistently: fail.

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  • El Churro

    Is there a way to change these habits on people? a relative of mine is like this and i dont want it to be like that the rest of her life.

    • Ama Rama

      Unless she has an abusive husband, the only reason she is doing this is because she feels ashamed of what she looks like. So making compliments about her looks as much as you can and try to bust her self esteem would be one way. The other would be to convince her to see a psychologist. Yes, there is a way out. Not easy and long term but worth it.

  • Corina-Elena Burtea

    I really dislike to put people in cages: successful- unsuccessful/ bad-good.devil-angel,.. people can have bad habits even if they are successful but they don’t talk about them, because nobody asks them about bad habits, we usually kiss their behinds and ask them for some coins or for some attention!